What a beautiful piece to read first thing in the morning. I am enchanted by your love of your child and, as you point out, it is a metaphor too large for most of us to see.
Marc, You described perfectly the way my children look at me as well. It's the greatest privilege I've been awarded: to be looked at with such love and trust by someone who knows beyond a doubt that you are their safe place.
Lovely as usual! I love that my husband looks at me this way. 🥰 All my past insecurities are starting to lessen with each passing year. ☺️ We don’t have children and are not sure if we will (as we are getting too old for them) but I love to read all the love for your son that drips from your letters and I hope that if I ever do have a child I find the joy in every day as you and your wife do.
Thank you so much! It took me a while to find Michael so I cherish the love we have. He’s a wonderful person and a gem of a husband and I know each day how lucky I am. I see that you know it too - with your wife and son - and that’s so amazing. 🤩
Indeed. The world needs more of that. Healing through true love and partnership with the right person. 🥰 It’s no easy task to find the right match, though, and I think society doesn’t do a good job of showing people how to find what is real, someone who loves the essence of you and vice versa.
Well, you've done it again. Made me teary-eyed. This element of the relationship we have with the little people in our lives is, well, you've already said it best, divine. As always, LOVE the recording too.
So beautiful Marc. And I know the feeling well .. the way my kids look at me changed the way I saw the world, the way I saw myself and everything around me and it still after being a mother for almost 9 years creates ripples in my soul like nothing else. Pure magic ✨
Beautiful & magical Marc! The line ‘like I have gems for molars and diamonds for a tongue’ is exquisite, I LOVE it. You’re a magnificent poet - loved the narration again too ❤️ bravo 👏
Re staring - I think it’s hard to accept stares from anyone outside of those who love you. Outside of those you know, I think it becomes uncomfortable from anyone that’s not a child? Children’s stares are given more grace than adults stares. But then I think in old age staring is more ‘allowed’ again. I guess what does that say about staring? We only accept it from those who may be dependent on others? If someone is independent does staring just have ill intent? I also think staring is very gendered - if a man stares at me I tend to feel very comfortable but if a woman stares I feel flattered and complimented. Much to unpack. Apart from Myles profound staring, where else are you comfortable with being stared at?
I love this comment. I really didn’t think about this. It also made me think about when children are young we often begin to socialize them early- even to the point if telling them too not to stare. Great question - I know anyone looking at me, Myles, or my partner long enough would make me uncomfortable. I don’t know if that’s cultural though. It makes me think about where is staring maybe something normal? I need to think about this some more - thank you for bringing it up. Appreciate you Martha! Also I’m reading my first book since the baby! Midnight Library ! Just thought I would share with you lol have you read it?!
Yes I agree when children are socialised we say don’t stare! You’re so right about the cultural thing - I just had a quick Google and apparently (according to the internet) staring can be seen as rude in Japan but polite in certain circumstance in Germany. As a Brit I’d say staring isn’t welcomed over here and that’s probably where my sometimes gendered experience of staring has come from. It’s rare to get stared at and if you start getting stared at on say, the tube, you immediately feel unsafe. I’m intrigued to find out if there are cultures where stating can be of the highest respect - I bet there is? We’re all so different it’s fascinating, I’d like to read a book on staring now haha!
Appreciate you too Marc thank you for asking the question! Will be spending my day considering staring now. And congrats on first book since baby! I haven’t ever read Midnight Library but it is so widely loved I’m sure you’ll enjoy it! Lmk what you think of it when you’re done and whether you recommend I give it a read. For future reference- always share with me the books you’re reading I’d always love to know! May there be many more post baby reads!
Yes, I’m now interested in learning more about staring too. It’s the same for everywhere I know. I’m now even interested in what psychologically stirs up in people when this happens. What’s behind the discomfort I wonder that leads to insecurity, anger, and sometimes even violence. When I use to live in NYC, taking the train was really a no stare zone. If you looked at someone long enough it was an invitation for conflict.
While I don’t have time to read, this book has been really something I get to enjoy for me early in the morning. I’ll get back to you when I’m finish for sure!
Appreciate you, Kimia 🥹🥺
Beautiful letter, Marc!
5) “Your dreams will come true.”
Thank you brother, and thank you for sharing that affirmation!
What a beautiful piece to read first thing in the morning. I am enchanted by your love of your child and, as you point out, it is a metaphor too large for most of us to see.
Story, I appreciate you for reading. Every week, I try to find the word to capture this feeling. I feel so lucky ❤️
Beautiful.
Thank you, Ben!
I love your reflection on Parenthood so much. We have 4 children ages 7, 6, 4, and 2 and honestly those looks still come and they are just incredible.
My husband looks at me like that every day.
I look at him that same way.
Diana, much love in one house! It sounds like a wonderful place to be.
Great article! I have a 2 year old too, Can relate too
Wonderful privilege man. You must know the feeling for real!
Well that is a whole word. Thank you Marc!
MaryAnn, THANK YOU for reading!
This is simply beautiful!
Thank you, Auntie !
You are welcome, and it genuinely is!
Beautifully written! 🥹
Thank you, Laraya!
Marc, You described perfectly the way my children look at me as well. It's the greatest privilege I've been awarded: to be looked at with such love and trust by someone who knows beyond a doubt that you are their safe place.
Yes, yes - with eyes that can do no wrong. Such a beautiful feeling.
Lovely as usual! I love that my husband looks at me this way. 🥰 All my past insecurities are starting to lessen with each passing year. ☺️ We don’t have children and are not sure if we will (as we are getting too old for them) but I love to read all the love for your son that drips from your letters and I hope that if I ever do have a child I find the joy in every day as you and your wife do.
Elaine, every week I am appreciating your comments more and more. The love you have for Michael really reminds me of my wife and I!
Thank you so much! It took me a while to find Michael so I cherish the love we have. He’s a wonderful person and a gem of a husband and I know each day how lucky I am. I see that you know it too - with your wife and son - and that’s so amazing. 🤩
Interesting how we know nothing about each other, but share the most beautiful feeling!
Indeed. The world needs more of that. Healing through true love and partnership with the right person. 🥰 It’s no easy task to find the right match, though, and I think society doesn’t do a good job of showing people how to find what is real, someone who loves the essence of you and vice versa.
Well, you've done it again. Made me teary-eyed. This element of the relationship we have with the little people in our lives is, well, you've already said it best, divine. As always, LOVE the recording too.
Divine indeed! I really enjoy adding the audio piece. Can you imagine being able to hear the voices of family members from long ago?
Thank you, as always, Holly.
So beautiful Marc. And I know the feeling well .. the way my kids look at me changed the way I saw the world, the way I saw myself and everything around me and it still after being a mother for almost 9 years creates ripples in my soul like nothing else. Pure magic ✨
It's the relationship that keeps on giving. Magic indeed! I appreciate you Claudia!
What a beautiful letter, Marc!
Thank you, Justin. Congrats again on the book!
Thanks a bunch, man!
Beautiful piece, Marc.
I liked all of it, but I particularly liked this line:
“Like she saw something beautiful stuck on my face that no one ever saw before,
Not even myself.”
Thank you, Michael!
Beautiful & magical Marc! The line ‘like I have gems for molars and diamonds for a tongue’ is exquisite, I LOVE it. You’re a magnificent poet - loved the narration again too ❤️ bravo 👏
Re staring - I think it’s hard to accept stares from anyone outside of those who love you. Outside of those you know, I think it becomes uncomfortable from anyone that’s not a child? Children’s stares are given more grace than adults stares. But then I think in old age staring is more ‘allowed’ again. I guess what does that say about staring? We only accept it from those who may be dependent on others? If someone is independent does staring just have ill intent? I also think staring is very gendered - if a man stares at me I tend to feel very comfortable but if a woman stares I feel flattered and complimented. Much to unpack. Apart from Myles profound staring, where else are you comfortable with being stared at?
I love this comment. I really didn’t think about this. It also made me think about when children are young we often begin to socialize them early- even to the point if telling them too not to stare. Great question - I know anyone looking at me, Myles, or my partner long enough would make me uncomfortable. I don’t know if that’s cultural though. It makes me think about where is staring maybe something normal? I need to think about this some more - thank you for bringing it up. Appreciate you Martha! Also I’m reading my first book since the baby! Midnight Library ! Just thought I would share with you lol have you read it?!
Yes I agree when children are socialised we say don’t stare! You’re so right about the cultural thing - I just had a quick Google and apparently (according to the internet) staring can be seen as rude in Japan but polite in certain circumstance in Germany. As a Brit I’d say staring isn’t welcomed over here and that’s probably where my sometimes gendered experience of staring has come from. It’s rare to get stared at and if you start getting stared at on say, the tube, you immediately feel unsafe. I’m intrigued to find out if there are cultures where stating can be of the highest respect - I bet there is? We’re all so different it’s fascinating, I’d like to read a book on staring now haha!
Appreciate you too Marc thank you for asking the question! Will be spending my day considering staring now. And congrats on first book since baby! I haven’t ever read Midnight Library but it is so widely loved I’m sure you’ll enjoy it! Lmk what you think of it when you’re done and whether you recommend I give it a read. For future reference- always share with me the books you’re reading I’d always love to know! May there be many more post baby reads!
Yes, I’m now interested in learning more about staring too. It’s the same for everywhere I know. I’m now even interested in what psychologically stirs up in people when this happens. What’s behind the discomfort I wonder that leads to insecurity, anger, and sometimes even violence. When I use to live in NYC, taking the train was really a no stare zone. If you looked at someone long enough it was an invitation for conflict.
While I don’t have time to read, this book has been really something I get to enjoy for me early in the morning. I’ll get back to you when I’m finish for sure!