The thirties are a time when a lot of people are lonely, especially if they've moved to a new area. People are busy with kids and all the day to day stuff, so it's hard to make space for new friends.
I hope you're able to make some soon. That kind of loneliness is no fun. I'm glad your little guy is so loved at his daycare.
Thank you Diana. I appreciate you - I don’t think people talk enough about the impact of male loneliness specifically enough. Maybe because we don’t talk about iit enough.
I understand. Twice, I have moved away from family and friends, leaving myself in a vacuum, not knowing who my people were. Starting over with anything or anywhere is HARD. My guess is that the impending holidays may have you in a familiar nostalgia and longing for the familiar. I do it every single year. (and many times in between) I tell myself to bloom where I am planted, but myself does not always listen. I have so many blessings where I am, and it sounds like you do, too. It doesn't negate how we feel, though. We will continue to try to bloom where we're planted, right? Know that you have a 71-year-old white woman friend out here praying for you, haha. You have a place in my heart.
Loved this one, Marc. I think of home as a multifaceted, ever-evolving construct. The places that once held us, the places we can always go back to, the places that exist only in memory, the places we lay our heads today, the places we will inhabit in our future lives. Maybe because I’ve moved so much, but somehow this is comforting for me.
It’s hard out here, bro. I appreciate you naming how lonely it all feels. This feels like an important step toward finding those people where you are. And I know, in time, you’ll be the one whose name they’re yelling when you walk through the door. I know I’m yelling when we finally meet. Love you!
I'm glad you have people *somewhere*, Marc, and I hope you find connection with some folks in your new location. My kids were homeschooled, so I didn't get to appreciate it, but people say parents make friends again when their children go to school. 🤷♀️
The thirties really are such a difficult time to make friends! Love that you are watching your son make those connections. Maybe his progress making friends can serve as a reminder that we can always be learning new skills, like how to make friends when we have no time. You making connections through your writing online is such a beautiful example of that.
Stephanie, yes and yes. The writing has really been a way of connecting me to so many people and has helped with that. Communities get to look dynamic. I am leaning into that. i appreciate you for being here.
I feel so much of this — it’s so hard to strike the balance of people and place. I’ve been pining a lot lately for old places, too. While still feeling excited about newness. It’s a strange dichotomy, and you write about it beautifully (as always) 💌
From the metaphors to the message, this was beautiful.
I hope you find the people that create a soft place for you and your to lay your heads.
Love you bro!
Thank you family- looking forward when we finally get to meet !
The thirties are a time when a lot of people are lonely, especially if they've moved to a new area. People are busy with kids and all the day to day stuff, so it's hard to make space for new friends.
I hope you're able to make some soon. That kind of loneliness is no fun. I'm glad your little guy is so loved at his daycare.
Take good care.
Thank you Diana. I appreciate you - I don’t think people talk enough about the impact of male loneliness specifically enough. Maybe because we don’t talk about iit enough.
I think it's also culturally ingrained too, Marc. Which is so sad. Meaningful connection is so nourishing, and I wish it was easier for all of us.
I understand. Twice, I have moved away from family and friends, leaving myself in a vacuum, not knowing who my people were. Starting over with anything or anywhere is HARD. My guess is that the impending holidays may have you in a familiar nostalgia and longing for the familiar. I do it every single year. (and many times in between) I tell myself to bloom where I am planted, but myself does not always listen. I have so many blessings where I am, and it sounds like you do, too. It doesn't negate how we feel, though. We will continue to try to bloom where we're planted, right? Know that you have a 71-year-old white woman friend out here praying for you, haha. You have a place in my heart.
This is exactly what I’m feeling, Donna. I’m determined to bloom ❤️
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Loved this one, Marc. I think of home as a multifaceted, ever-evolving construct. The places that once held us, the places we can always go back to, the places that exist only in memory, the places we lay our heads today, the places we will inhabit in our future lives. Maybe because I’ve moved so much, but somehow this is comforting for me.
It’s hard out here, bro. I appreciate you naming how lonely it all feels. This feels like an important step toward finding those people where you are. And I know, in time, you’ll be the one whose name they’re yelling when you walk through the door. I know I’m yelling when we finally meet. Love you!
It’s coming brother, I know it ! Love you too man. Thank you, for just being you.
Loving this post homie, and wishing for you to find your tribe in the south as well.
Brother, appreciate you so much.
I'm glad you have people *somewhere*, Marc, and I hope you find connection with some folks in your new location. My kids were homeschooled, so I didn't get to appreciate it, but people say parents make friends again when their children go to school. 🤷♀️
Have you seen this funny clip of Taylor Tomlinson having a conversation with a woman in the audience and a sidebar topic is that the woman is out with 7 friends?! [language warning] Hugs! It's not just you. https://www.tiktok.com/@taylortomlinsoncomedy/video/7420530100690570538?lang=en
lol Loved this bit! I'm actually about to try and host a dad meetup next week so wish me luck!
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The thirties really are such a difficult time to make friends! Love that you are watching your son make those connections. Maybe his progress making friends can serve as a reminder that we can always be learning new skills, like how to make friends when we have no time. You making connections through your writing online is such a beautiful example of that.
Stephanie, yes and yes. The writing has really been a way of connecting me to so many people and has helped with that. Communities get to look dynamic. I am leaning into that. i appreciate you for being here.
I feel so much of this — it’s so hard to strike the balance of people and place. I’ve been pining a lot lately for old places, too. While still feeling excited about newness. It’s a strange dichotomy, and you write about it beautifully (as always) 💌